Reasons to be happy

My life doesn't always look exactly like I want it to. I spend many days in my pyjamas doing housework, complaining, or wishing that I had someone else's life. However life wouldn't change if I had more money, a better car, a nicer house, it may look more perfect and finished from the outside looking in - but in theory, I would probably still feel the same. The way I feel about myself, how much I open myself to new experiences or new people, the way I carry myself or how often I smile simply because I can and it feels good - none of these things depend on my life situation.

"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections"
I can't remember where I read that quote. Although It did make me think, at the beginning of 2014 I set myself some goals for the year ahead. One of them being 'try to embrace new things and be more positive/happy'. That, in turn, inspired me to write this blog post, and I may well make it a weekly thing because I'm always overlooking the positive things in my life to focus on the negative. Reflecting on things that make you smile, or make you happy. 

"In a study people became gradually happier over a 6-month period, simply by writing down 3 good things that happened at the end of the day and why they happened"

Good health is something that we all take for granted. As you may already know I work with the elderly, my job is to provide the best care and support I possibly can. Some people refer to it as 'end of life care' in reality, sadly that is what I provide. I see sick people every day, whether it is the dreaded 'C' word or a horrible illness like Alzheimer's which robs the person of themselves. It's so sad to see someone so confused and upset about something they generally cannot control.

Alzheimer's poem

Do not ask me to remember
Don't try to make me understand
Let me rest and know you're with me
Kiss my cheek and hold my hand

I'm confused beyond your concept
I am sad and sick and lost
all I know is that I need you
To be with me at all cost

Do not lose your patience with me
Do not scold or curse or cry
I can't help the way I'm acting
Can't be different though I try

Just remember that I need you
The best of me is gone
Please don't fail to stand beside me
Love me 'til my life is done

In turn, it's sad to watch the family's go through the pain of seeing there loved one hurt, or fade into a shell of a person they previously were. I can also relate because I went through it with my grandfather. My nanna took care of my grandfather, and never complained or thought it was a burden. How many people nnowadayscan say they would happily do that for a love one? Our generation comes across selfish (sorry if you don't agree). I just think we take our health for granted, well I know I do personally. Im not complaining about my job, I wouldn't change it for the world although it may be tough. I just think it is so sad that this day in age, children are sat playing video games indoors, missing the world go by. Or that sometimes I forget and complain about my life, when it isn't always as bad as it seems. 

The last picture of my nanna and grandad.

The point I'm making is my reason to be happy is I have my health. I don't have to depend on someone else for day to day things. I can take myself to the shops whenever I please. Shower myself, And something as simple as making myself a cup of tea - some people can't do that for themselves. I may not have everything I desire. I may face my own struggles and battles in life but at least I'm healthy enough to fight them.  I can make my own choices and decisions, even if that means making the wrong one. After all we cannot change the past, and we don't know if we exist in the future, so why not embrace the now? Be thankful for what we do have.

Being a women, one of the most amazing things about it is you can bring another life into this world. You can feel them grow inside you, feel them kick for the first time inside your stomach. After labor watch them develop into there own person with their own personality. Walk for the first time, go to school and graduate, there first job, marriage and maybe becoming a parent themselves.

There is no greater gift than being a parent, and I think that's enough reason to be happy and smile everyday. I know myself everytime I feel her kick, wriggle or move, that I smile. It was me that created that little person, and it's me who is going to shape her into a amazing individual that I know she is going to become. 

So why not join me? Next time your feeling down try and think of at least two things that make you smile.

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