Preparing Your Toddler For a New Baby


We are getting closer and closer to becoming a family of four, our family will be growing in a matter of weeks and while we are as ready as we can be for her arrival. It feels like it has been a long time coming, but something that I have constantly been thinking about, even now it is on my mind, is how will our little girl adjust to her little sister. Will she loved being a big sister, or will it really take its toll on her. It’s a big change, to suddenly go from being the only child, to having a sister. Having to share your parents, grandparents, toys, and home. It’s not just that, but this little person is going to be loud, and needy – will she cope with that?

One of the things that I’m often asked when talking to family and friends ‘is Emily excited about being a big sister?’ and honestly, that is so difficult to answer. I think she is, but I can’t be certain. She loves nothing more than telling everyone about her baby sissy, and showing them ultrasound pictures – she even has one on her shelf in her room. She reads lots of books about babies, and being a big sister and she seems to understand – but she is only 2 years old. I’m not sure how much of it she is taken in. Also, the idea of it happening, and it actually being a reality are two completely separate things.

I can’t be the only parent who thinks like this? So, I thought I would share what we have been doing during my pregnancy, to help prepare Emily for what is to come, well as much as you can prepare them at this age. Each of these things have helped us a great deal, after all we wanted to make sure that we included Emily in this process as much as possible because it isn’t just a new baby to Sam and I, it’s her little sister too. So, I thought that I would share them with you, encase you needs some ideas on how prepare your little one for their sibling’s arrival.


Including them in your ultrasounds
While we were not allowed to take Emily into the room while I had an ultrasound at the hospital – we were in fact allowed to take her to show her our private scan, which we of course did. Sam and I decided that we wanted to pay for a private scan at 16 weeks because I was feeling extremely anxious, and I also really struggled with hyperemesis, which made enjoying the pregnancy difficult. We also wanted to show Emily the baby in her mama’s tummy. While we had shown her pictures, and she knew how to work out where the head and feet were, I knew that she would see so much more from coming to the scan with us. So that is what we did. The same day we found out the gender – which helped massively, as suddenly it wasn’t just a baby, it was her little sister. Emily quickly nicknamed her ‘sissy’ and she has been that ever since.

Loving the bump
I tried not to put too much pressure on Emily to love my bump, after all I really do love my own space. Emily literally had other ideas, she has been obsessed with giving my bump cuddles and kisses. She always asks if she can listen to baby sissy, by that she means getting an empty toilet roll tube, putting it on my stomach and pretending to listen to her through that. Emily also comes with me to my midwife appointments, which means she gets to hear her sissy’s heartbeat every couple of weeks. She loves nothing more than telling me it sounds like a horsey and making ‘dudumdudum’ sounds.

Being a little helper
Emily loves to help me, no matter if that is putting washing in the washing machine, or hoovering. She wants to do everything I do, so it was only natural that she wanted to help me with baby things to. At first I wasn’t so keen on letting her help me, I can get it done so much faster by myself, and, she seems to create more mess than anything else. I soon learnt that it was benefiting her massively to help us. She loved putting together the bouncer, and couldn’t wait to put her little baby inside to test it out. She also wanted to put the nappies away in the draw next to where we keep Emily’s pull ups. It is the little things that have prepared her more for the baby arriving.


Baby books
I’ve mentioned these on my blog before, when we found out I was pregnant I ordered quite a few books for Emily. She is a little book worm so I knew that she would love having books about babies, and about becoming a big sister. She often picks the baby books to read at bedtime, and talks about ‘her sissy’ lots more since having the books. There are some lovely books for children about becoming a sibling, I have a little list here if you want some recommendations.

Picking a gift for the baby While we have been out and about shopping there have been a few occasions where Emily has asked if she can buy certain things for her little sister. I have no problem letting her buy things within reason of course, she did once try to convince me that her baby sissy NEEDED a new Thomas toy,  am sure she didn’t and Emily just wanted it for herself. Emily has picked a little jellycat bunny for her sister, and a little sleepsuit which has ‘little sister’ on it.

A gift for Emily from the baby
This may not be to everyone’s taste, but we have brought Emily a couple of little presents from her sister. When she comes to meet her sister at the hospital, Emily is going to bring the bunny she has picked for her sissy, so we of course wanted to have something to give Emily from the baby. It’s only fair, right? We haven’t gone overboard though, there is just a few little things in there such as a couple of blind bags (Emily’s favourite thing right now) and a big sister t-shirt. I will be writing a blog post about Emily’s big sister bag, so keep your eyes peeled for that if you need inspiration on what to include.


I’d love to hear any tips or your experiences, if you have already gone from one baby to two, what do you think helped the most?

7 comments

  1. We did everything mentioned and whilst Darcie did take to being a big sister well, she loved him so much, it did effect her in ways I didn't even consider. She felt really put out a lot of the time due to the amount of time having a baby takes. She used to get very frustrated quickly - and still does now and my son will be 2 in September! One thing I wish I did more of in the beginning (which we do more of now) is having special one on one play dates. Even if it's just half an hour at the park or library when partner has the baby so you and her can do something just together.

    Kay | www.mummyburgess.co.uk xxx

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  2. She sounds like she is going to ge a fab big sister. I like the idea of her being included and going to your appointments with her. They will look adorable in their sister outfits together

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  3. My husband has two children and although it's a bit different we were really conscious to include them in ultrasounds and also buying the odd bits. If his 7 year old wanted to to buy something for Rory (when he was Bump) I would let her, which unfortunately once included a R2D2 Sleepsuit 🤣

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  4. Aww this is a lovely post. I was so worried about preparing my little girl for her brothers arrival too, but she was the best big sister! As I'm sure your little girlie will be too! xx

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  5. I have three, I dont remember much from when my first was small and I was pregnant with my second, he was only 18 months old when she arrived so we didnt include him as much but when I was pregnant with my third, which was 5 years after the second, we tried to do our best.. i was more worried about how theyd deal with a baby rather than how a 18 month old would deal with a baby haha.. turns out they adore their little sister :)

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  6. These are great tips! I can't wait until we have a sibling for bear and can get him involved in the pregnancy, I think he would love it. I'm loving these though, I'll definitely note them for future use! Xx

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  7. This is such a lovely post - booking marking for baby number 2 :D I think Emily is going to be a great big sister :D

    Lucie xx | LucieLovesit.com

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