8 Reasons I'm Enjoying The Terrible Twos!


Emily seems to have hit the terrible twos stage, and boy do we know about it. She seems to have her daddy's stubborn streak and my temper. If you tell her no, she laughs, folds her arms, or just tells you no back. If you try to reason with her or give her time out, she just plays or lays on the floor, completely unfazed by the whole thing. While It's challenging, I am not hating this stage as much as I thought I would, I actually find it quite amusing, and sometimes I'm even a little proud of her. I know I must be crazy right? but hear me out.

As much as the terrible twos come with their own set of challenges, they are also a time of great milestones and a blossoming imagination. Even in the toughest moments, I'm in awe of my little girl, her stubborn streak, determination and blossoming personality. She is finding her own voice, and expressing it. I try to give her as many decisions during the day, for example 'would you like pink socks or purple?' This actually reduces her tantrums and I'm guessing it's because she feels like she has more control. Toddlers are bossy, opinionated, determined and know what they want, but if it is channelled properly, that demanding nature can actually help them become a more confident adult - and I am all for that.

Since most of you are properly sitting there thinking, why do you love it, you must be crazy. I thought I would share my 8 reasons why I am currently loving the terrible twos stage!


Toddlers are always willing to help
Two-year-olds are known for their stubborn behaviour; this can also make them great helpers. Toddlers have this determination to do everything themselves. Why not use this to your advantage, let them help you put away items of their own laundry, or help wash up their own breakfast dishes. I have been finding small jobs that Emily can do, which also helps me get on with the jobs I need to, and she really thrives when she has her own little task. It's nice to have a little helper, and she is learning key life skills while she's young.

They think outside the box
As adults we tend to have tunnel vision sometimes, we know what is right and what is wrong. We tend to stop pushing the boundaries and just go with what we are 'supposed to do'. Toddlers have their own way of looking at life, and I think that is something we should really treasure. They approach every new task with fresh eyes, creativity, ambition and passion. Sure this artistic flair can lead to destruction, such as drawing on the walls. However, if it is guided correctly, you can provide a free creativity space and your budding artist can express themselves without causing lasting damage. I love watching Emily create little masterpieces she's proud of, and these moments of unguided play, give your little on the independence they need to build their confidence.

They believe in magic
There is nothing more special than magic, and believing it's true. Whether that is Santa, the Easter bunny, or that mama has magical kisses. Emily often just needs a kiss to make a bump or bruise better. It's as if that kiss makes the whole world right again. Toddlers need love, guidance and security the most at this age, and I think that is really something to treasure. Before I know it Emily will be a tantruming teen who hates me for taking her phone away no doubt.


Everywhere and everything is a learning tool
Toddlers are like sponges, they absorb everything, even the things that we think they don't hear. I love that toddler love to learn new things, whether that is words, colours, shapes or songs. Their curious minds keep them alert, with rapidly developing language skills it is the perfect time to teach them everything you can. It doesn't matter where you are, the park, getting the food shopping, or even just a walk around a forest, they are constantly learning new things, and every new moment and place brings new curiosities. 

Toddler live in the moment
While short attention spans can be something we quickly dismiss or get frustrated with. It is actually something we should treasure. Toddlers don't hold grudges or worry about what happened five minutes ago. They simply focus on the thing that is in front of them, and are amused, content and engaged in the moment. Even tantrums last moments before they bounce back and act like it never happened, isn't that something as adults we should try and learn from them.

No judgement
Adult life is hard, people get judged every day for their looks, gender, race, and sexual preference. Toddlers don't see any of this, all they see is a new face. They have a willingness to play and smile at anyone they come across. Toddlers are easy to entertain and quick to make laugh. They are at the ripe age to learn about acts of kindness, loving relationships and healthy boundaries. By simply listening and embracing their soft-hearted nature, and giving them gentle guidance, you can give them the strength to take that no judgement attitude through to their teen years and adulthood.


Toddlers are adventurous
I have a fearless toddler; she is will climb on anything. Our bed, tables, her wooden kitchen, and then throw herself onto piles of blankets, or pillows. While this can be terrifying for parents, in a safe environment it can actually teach them courage. If we remove every single dangerous situation and wrap them in bubble wrap, how are they supposed to learn right from wrong, or what is safe or dangerous?

Toddlers are in touch with their emotions
Living with a toddler is like being on an emotional rollercoaster. One minute they are happy, laughing and dancing, the next they are throwing a tantrum, crying and laying on the floor refusing to move. While this feels like whiplash for parents, it can also serve them well as they grow and learn to control those emotions. Being able to empathize and express emotion in a positive way is something many adults lack, and is one of the most important things for building a healthy relationship with family and friends. You may have noticed that toddlers pick up on all of your moods, and feel empathy (giving you a hug if you are sad). Although it may be on a simpler level, you can still have a good heartfelt chat to your toddler. It just goes to show emotional skills can be learnt sooner than we think.


Now tell me, whats your favourite thing about the terrible twos stage. There must be at least one?

7 comments

  1. I'm with you! Rosalie has just turned two and I think this is the best age! She comes out with the funniest things and is constantly making us smile. I love watching her learn new things and celebrating with her when she nails it! Everything is so very exciting with a 2 year old. They make life joyful x

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  2. I LOVED the children being two. Although there were tantrums there were good times that totally outweighed the hard ones. It's the age where they go from baby to little person and it was all kinds of awesome. LOVE this post x

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  3. My youngest is just about to turn 4. Although called the terrible twos we didn't have that much of a terrible time....very few tantrums...think I was lucky to escape it all

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  4. Awh i love this, not the tantrums some much. It's such an adventurous year, they learn so much. X

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  5. I was nodding all the way through this post. I love how you've turned the terrible twos into something so positive. I loved this stage with my Son and although the tantrums were ridiculous, the rest of the time was just magical x

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  6. Loved this post, what a lovely way to look at it :) My little boy is three and, yes he has his stroppy moments but, like you say, everything is so magical and full of adventure at this age. He is such good company too x

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  7. That first photo!! Her little stressed face 😂😂 my sisters little girl went through the same kinda phase. We went on holiday together and we weren't even able to look at her without her screaming her head off!

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